On my way to an event last night, I encountered a problem on my mobile phone. I couldn’t send and receive text messages. I couldn’t even delete some of the messages. I then realized that I already have 2, 500 + messages on my inbox alone (am too lazy to delete haha sorry). So there.
I didn’t want to delete all the contents of my inbox because about 1/4 of the messages are very important to me like account numbers, email addresses etc. While I was on our booth, I scanned through all the messages and found some simple yet important advices.
One of which is a text message from a friend two weeks ago. I was ranting on how things didn’t turn out well that week. I was blaming myself too much and partly, I blamed him. He told me that having such feeling is normal especially when you are pressured to do well on a specific task. I actually admire how he manages to smile despite all the problems he had encountered in his life. To cope up with stress and loneliness, I usually cry alone or blog about what happened then later on, i’m ok.
I told him that I never, ever want to fail again. Failure makes a lot of people feel depress especially to those who can’t cope up with such situations alone. His reply is short but worth remembering:
DARE TO FAIL 🙂
When I read that message that night, it somewhat made me smile. No, I don’t really want to fail at what I’m doing. It’s just that I realized that every failure teaches you a lesson. It’s up to you on how you’re going to deal with it.
Let me give you an example:
A few days ago, i attended an event where we were all given the chance to do carting. The last time I tried it was when I was 10 years old in Subic. I was pretty nervous that’s why I ended up getting bumped for more that five times. The facilitators even approached me twice and asked if I’m ok. I said I am though I felt embarrased already.
When I got out of the engine, one of the facilitators approached me and asked if i’m ok. I apologized for the messy thing I did. He then told me what I should and shouldn’t do in carting. I listened to him and expressed my concerns. He then gave me a smile and told me that i shouldn’t be discouraged. When you are a slow starter, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a slow driver forever. It takes a lot of practice and you should learn from your mistakes.
During the race part, my team mates wanted me to do more lapse, but I told them I could only do about five. While driving, I managed to drive slowly but surely. I even managed to block some of the members of the other teams LOL. We lost but at least we experienced something really new to us and for me, I dared to fail and i learned from it.
Last month, I commited a mistake at work. I used to complain about how I hate myself for commiting such error. Now, I dared to learn from my failure and I managed to do something about it.
In my lovelife, I met a number of guys and fell something special with each of them but none of them became my boyfriend. Now, I dare myself to meet more people while I am not yet ready to commit.
In terms of my family, I dared to be independent as I enter the corporate world. I used to think that I couldn’t do it without Carlo. I then dared to set him free and I dared to live on my own. At least I learned.
Now I can say that I succeeded in learning after I dared to fail. 🙂