Were you able to read the Summit Media book Have Baby, Will Date? Or were you able to catch the TV version of the said chicklit on TV5 where Valerie Concepcion played the lead role? Well, any of the two mentioned Â has nothing to do with this blog entry LOL 😛
Last Saturday, Ada and I went to Greenhills after our shoot for Tek Tok TV. We found out that Hannah’s scheduled to host a seminar somewhere in Promenade Mall and since we have nothing to do, we decided to take a sneak peak at the event.
We saw Carlo Ople talking in front while Sir Sonny invited us to join. I then found out that it is a Cyber Safety Campaign for Parents seminar. Obviously, we didn’t really have plans of staying since it is a seminar designed for parents. Carlo’s talk somewhat caught my attention because he was speaking about online gaming addiction when we came in. We decided to stay 😛
The next speaker that day is Sir Sonny, who then discussed about keeping your kids safe from possible harm that can be seen online. He narrated how he gained his son’s trust and vice versa. He also emphasized on the importance of building that ‘offline’ connection with your kids. Spending time with them and being a role model to them is the most effective way of teaching a little kid. It somewhat reminded me on how I was brought up by my parents.
When I was in elementary, I am frequently seen in the library reading books and I kept on borrowing them just for the sake of having my library card filled out LOL. These days, kids rely on the internet for their research and assignments. Everything works in an instant and technology is the one to thank (or to blame?) because we can now access information in just a snap.
All throughout the talk, I was quiet at my seat. I remember Ada asking me from time to time ‘Huy, anong iniisip mo?’, ‘Oi badet bakit tahimik ka?’ ‘Inaantok ka na ‘noh?’ – Ang Kulit eh haha but well.. what was i really thinking while at my seat?
See, I am already 23 years old. In fact, I am already in the marrying age. I have a stable job and yes, i can produce a baby now LOL. A cousin of mine gave birth last Sunday and we’re at the same age so yeah, basically i am now capable of making babies. Plenty of babies!
But errr… I dunno. Am I ready to really have one? Financially, I can say I am now capable of supporting a little kid’s needs with the help of the father. Physically, I also am (with a sexy yet healthy body like mine LOL!) but Emotionally, I don’t think I am. Mentally too.
Then I thought of these scenarios:
SCENARIO # 1 AIR FARE SALE!!!!! Travel to blah-blah destination for as low as Php1 All-in!
Mica the Single Lady : Tara na let’s go! Let’s book 100 destinations then let’s share for the hotel accommodations and the food! Let’s go to this place and that place! Let’s but more stuff! Pasalubong! Yeah! Libot-libot galore!
Mica the Mommy: Pass for now. I need to save up for my son/daughter’s needs. I need to pay for his/her tuition fee, the new books, school supplies, the uniform and the nanny. I need to bring and fetch him/her to school everyday! I need to cook dinner too because the in-laws are coming. Pass Pass Pass!
SCENARIO # 2 : DINNER WITH BLOGGER FRIENDS
Mica the Single Lady: Hey, let’s try this new place! Let’s go to Tagaytay by midnight and eat Bulalo! Let’s go to Krispy Kreme/Starbucks/CBTL after dinner! I want Cebu Lechon and Dried Mangoes. Let’s go to Cebu! I miss Mam Bebs’ Pansit Luglug and yes, I want Durian! Let’s go back to Davao! Bring me anywhere as long as there is food!
Mica the Mommy: Eating outside is expensive! Be practical! I’ll cook a meal for all of us in time for dinner. You can stay in the house as long as you all leave by 11PM. Hubby needs to sleep and of course, my little chikitings needs to wake up early for school! I’ll prepare baon pa for them.
Mica the Single Lady: Twitter! Plurk! Tumblr! Facebook! Flickr! WordPress! Blogger! Skype! YM! Gtalk! Yeah! Bring It On!
Mica the Mommy: Oh noes! I have to shut my computer down because the baby’s crying. The computer usage also eats up too much electricity resulting to an uninspiring Meralco bill!
SCENARIO # 4: The Zorbing, The Zipline, The Bungee Jumping!
Mica the Single Lady: Just do it like Nike!
Mica the Mommy: I will never risk my life for such dangerous activity. My husband and my children needs me more. I am contented watching my friend’s videos and just imagine that I am the one doing that adventure (huhuhu)
SCENARIO # 5: Dress, Shoes, Bags and Kikay Stuff
Mica the Single Lady: Payday Friday! Adsense Payout! Come on and let’s shop ’till we drop!
Mica the Mommy: Yehey! Just in time for the grocery, my children’s clothes, shoes, school bags and milk!
Am I imagining too much? The answer is yes, but I am being realistic. Entering parenthood is not an easy thing to do. I somewhat learned from my very own observation on how my Mom and Dad tried their best to be a good parent to a little girl (that turned out to be me LOL). My mom was also 23 years old when she had me. My dad’s a year younger. Although they were not really financially ready that time, I know that they tried their very best to give me my needs. I may not live in a mansion-like house. I don’t even have much money in my wallet as a student. I didn’t study elementary, high school and college in an expensive school in Manila, but I learned from them in terms of Experience on how to deal with life.
As an elementary student, my parents didn’t give me everything I wished for. Even my grandparents didn’t shower me with too much presents. I had to work hard if i really want something. It was the time wherein I did really concentrate on my studies. I am one of those students who can’t sleep before card day. I was competitive in Elementary, but I got tired of it. I ended up concentrating on my extra-curricular activities (dancing, singing etc.), but they just let me do what I want. In fact, they’re always present whenever i am competing in school LOL. I didn’t hide anything from them and our communication lines were open. I am not secretive when it comes to heart matters or even problems related to friends and school. That is the reason on why I am close to them. They made me feel so secured and I shouldn’t be afraid of telling them how I feel about things. I am lucky.
I want to be a good parent. I want to be a good wife. If I have a choice, I’d like to talk to my future husband and tell him how I was brought up by my family and ask him his story then as we go on, we should plan on how we’ll teach our kids grow as good individuals. Thinking about parenthood makes me raise more questions everytime I find an answer to one. What if by paying too much attention to your kid results to having your kids spoiled? Waaaah T_T
I am an observant and I really want my future family to be physically, emotionally, mentally and financially stable. Of course, I’d still blog about it 😛
When I was a little kid, I kept on asking questions. Here are some examples:
- ‘Papa, paano ba ako ginawa?’,
- ‘Mama, bakit wala pa akong kapatid? Pray naman ako ng pray kay Papa Jesus’,
- ‘Nasaan si Santa Clause? Puwede ko bang i-wish sa kanya na dito na lang sa room ko mag-stay si Betty Boop at Madonna?’,
- ‘Malaki kaya si Bugs Bunny kapag naging totoo siya o magiging isa siyang giant?’,
- Bakit si Yaya lagay ng lagay ng sticker ng SO-EN sa kabinet niya?
- Bakit iba yung binabasang pocketbook ni Lolo kaysa kay Yaya?
- ‘Totoo bang ni-rape ni Tito Miguel (Rodriguez) si Vilma Santos sa TV?’,
- ‘Bakit ‘nung pinatay si Philip Salvador sa TV, nabuhay pa rin siya pero si Tito Vincent hindi na nabuhay sa Hyatt?’.
- Papa, bakit itim si Michael Jackson sa moomoo video pero puti na siya sa poster kasama si Richie Rich?
- Mama, bakit ako pinagalitan ni Papa nung kinanta ko ‘yung Papa Don’t Preach?
Hahaha. I’m such a curious kid, eh? Now my future children can look up for the answers online (not unless if they’re redirected to a SEO blog LOL).
How will my kids react just in case they see my adventures in my blogs? How will they react if they read this specific blog entry? The thought makes me giggle hihi. I wonder how i’d react if I see this one again soon 😛